The New Year is, for many people, a time to start over. We all know this as making a New Year’s resolution. Whether it’s to be more organized, healthier, or more studious, everyone usually thinks of something in their lives that they are unsatisfied with and want to change. But along with how many people make resolutions, most of them don’t actually achieve the goal they set for the new year. Some of the time the problem is how motivated they are to work towards their goal, but a lot of the time it is simply because their resolution is the wrong one.
Myth: You can achieve any resolution you set for yourself.
Reality/Advice:
This doesn’t mean that no matter what you set for yourself you can’t make it happen. It’s just that most people dream way too big and aren’t real with themselves.
You need to think small and specific. Don’t tell yourself that you’re going to graduate, find your dream job, and become head of the company all in the coming year. Not to be pessimistic, but that won’t happen.
Also, do not make a resolution that has the word “never” or “always” in it, because it will never happen and you will always fail. Instead, make one that is realistic and allows you to slip up every once in a while as long as you are still focused. This will make the end result feel more achievable and the journey less discouraging.
What people need to do before they think of a resolution is question themselves: why it is even necessary to make this resolution in the first place? That is, what has stopped me from already making this happen?
That is how resolutions get achieved, by figuring out the real problem. For example, the resolution to make new friends. You aren’t going to make this happen by going up to random people and starting conversations with them, especially if you were a very introverted person in the first place. Look deeper than that. Think about why you like to be alone. What is it that stops you from conversing with those around you? Maybe you’re scared? If you figure that out, not only will you learn more about yourself, but you can see where the problem comes from and change that, then the end goal will naturally follow.
It is never a bad idea to make improvements in your life, but if you actually want to make them happen, it not only takes dedication but organization. Just like anything in life, you have to take little steps if you want to be successful in reaching your resolution.
I hope this helps you come up with a better plan on how to make your resolution come true.
Have a great week!